For those of you playing along at home, today is our fourth wedding anniversary. Four years ago Ki Ki and I stood in front of a drive through window at the Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas, and flanked by Elvis, a pink Cadillac, my cousin and her maid of honor, pledged our fidelity to each other in the presence of a retired minister who I swear grabbed me by the throat and implored me to “keep God in your marriage”.
Never mind that after we left I darn nearly spilled out on to the street as the door to Elvis’s pink Cadillac unexpectedly flew open as we drove off, it was still the happiest moment of my life.
Indeed our marriage began with levity and silliness, and these are truly qualities that are essential in a successful marriage. To this day, my wife and I are very silly people. But don’t for a minute think that we are not serious about each other or our marriage…
I want to tell you a story: we have some friends who are young and experiencing some of the growing pains that young marriages do. In the course of conversation, the young lady said to Ki Ki “I wish we could have a marriage like yours”. You’d be surprised how often we hear that. To me, there is no greater complement, and in return we are always willing to share the things that work for us, and the things that didn’t always go so well.
Our 4th anniversary. Sometimes my job is so stressful I think about becoming a monk (I can “grandparent” the marriage, right?). Sometimes the housework gets so overwhelming that Ki Ki just wants to put all our stuff in a dumpster and have the county haul it all off.
And sometimes it seems as if our child is a million miles and eons away.
But these are the times that I remember how we started: a drive through window, Elvis, a pink Cadillac, and a near disaster. And I remember it’s the simple joy and the silliness that life is that really matters, and I remember that Ki Ki and I together can overcome anything. We’re 4 and 0: four years and zero defeats, and a lifetime to look forward to.
Honey, let’s go get our child.
Happy Anniversary Baby.
